Do you ever find yourself feeling overwhelmed, confused, or just flat-out lost? Are you ever not sure if the path you’re on is the right one or not? Well, hang in there. Let’s get you unstuck. Here is what you should do when you just don’t know what to do.
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Don’t you hate when you just don’t know what to do? It sucks not knowing all the answers. Well, if we had all the answers, we wouldn’t be stuck where we are now, right? So let’s get ourselves unstuck. What do you do when you just aren’t sure what to do? Well, the first step is to breathe and refocus and know that you can do this. You can figure this out. Let’s go.
Step One: Just Breathe
So you don’t know what to do? That’s okay. Just breathe. It’s hard to make any kind of decision under any amount of pressure or tension. Picture both sides of your brain going at it; that’s what it feels like when you’re stuck. The indecisiveness eats away at you. Unless your decision is life-threatening or urgent, you have some time to breathe before you take your shot at this. So walk away, slow down, relax and get in a clear space. You can’t make a sound decision while existing in mental fatigue. Your brain needs a minute to cool down and get straight. I know it’s hard but just wait a minute. It will be okay.
Step Two: Assess
So you don’t know what to do? Okay, so let’s evaluate. Most of the time, there are two options. I do this, or I don’t do this. Maybe sometimes there’s more. But for this example, we’re going to go with two. So you have two options: I’m going to move forward with this thing, this dream of mine, this vision I have for my life, or; I’m going to give up and do something else. I’m going to find something else to focus on.
Good, so we have options. Options are good. It’s good to get your options out there so we can really tackle this head-on. That moves us on to the third step.
Step Three: Write Them Down
Write down your options. We’ll call these Option A, Option B, and so on. Then, write down some logical scenarios that could happen with each option. For instance, Option A is you move forward. You keep doing what you’re doing. You go through the struggles, the challenges, and the tough days. You write down the vision you can see for the future. How does it look? What will you be doing? Write it all down.
Then write down your next option, Option B. Option B is you give up. You settle. You walk away. You decide that you’re not going to pursue this, and you’re going to figure something else out. Write down what that looks like. How will that play out? How does that change your vision for the future? Got it? Alright, let’s move on.
Step Four: Review Your Findings
So now you literally have all of your options out on the table. That’s great! You got all of those ideas out of your head. You just brain-dumped all of that chaos and information onto a sheet of paper. Doesn’t that feel good? Don’t you feel less stressed? No? Okay, then keep reading.
The next step is to review your findings. Take inventory of what you have uncovered. What’s good? What’s bad? What’s real? What’s not? Review it all. Now, which option do you think gives you the most promise? Option A or Option B, or perhaps another option?
I know what you’re thinking: Well, Option A looks good, but I like Option B too. That’s okay. That’s why we’re here. We’re here to make a decision. So if you had to make a decision right now, what would you choose? Don’t worry about right or wrong. Just pick something. Now let’s move on to step five.
Step Five: Make The Choice
So you slowed down, assessed your options, wrote them all down, and carefully reviewed them; now what? Well, now it’s time to make a freakin’ choice.
You decide now what you will do. The information is all there for you. These are your options. Do you want the path that takes the most time or the path that gets you there quicker? Do you want the easy way, or do you want the hard way? Which path gets you to where you want to be? What are your goals? Remember, we have to have goals to be able to progress. Which options take you closer to your goals. Whatever option that is, is the one you need to choose. The option that gets you closer to that vision that you have. Even if it’s the hard one, go for it. But you do need a vision. Without that, this plan won’t work. You need to know what it is you’re aiming at if you plan to hit any kind of target.
Are you ready to make a choice? It’s time. Keep fighting or fall back. Recover and come back another time. Just know that whatever choice you make, make it with confidence and stand by it. You need to be firm in your decision and firm in your beliefs. You can do this.
You Know What To Do
So I think what we’ve learned about what to do when we aren’t sure what to do is this: WE KNOW WHAT TO DO!
Huh? You read that right. We all know what to do. But our mind tries and convinces us that we don’t. We start playing through all of these outcomes and possibilities, and scenarios. We create a script for a movie that won’t ever be released. Our minds create so many false beliefs and ideas that it prevents us from doing anything. Our minds like easy. Our mind likes simplicity. Our mind wants complacency. Don’t be complacent. Trick your mind into being your biggest fan.
Perhaps you still aren’t sure what you should do? I think you know what to do, you just aren’t ready yet, and that’s okay. Jump when you’re ready. You know that old saying, *“Go with your gut,” well, what is your gut telling you to do? Got it? Good! Keep going. You’re going to crush this!
Thank you for reading. I hope you have a great day. Leave a message or share this with a friend and let me know in the comments what your thoughts are on this article.
*”Go With Your Gut.” All credit goes to the author of those words.