A Few Things You Should Hear About Proving Others Wrong

“Prove them wrong!” 

It’s what we tell ourselves in our moment of defeat. 

It’s what defines our journey from where we are now to where we want to be, and it ends up becoming the tagline of our entire story. But what if I told you that there was a better way to get what you want? What if I told you that we had nothing to prove to anybody? That’s right! Instead of proving others wrong, it’s time to prove it to ourselves. Prove yourself wrong. 

In life, we spend a lot of time and energy focusing on squeezing into and fitting our way into someone else’s box that we forget how to fit into our own. We spend a lot of valuable time trying to live up to the expectations that others place on us; that we forget that those expectations are constantly evolving. Their standard for us will get higher and higher as time passes. We’ll wind up proving and convincing instead of living and being. 

This constant battle for acceptance will leave us feeling drained, defeated, demotivated, and depressed. Because deep down, the expectations of others will be hard to fulfill. The only expectations we need to focus on are those we place on ourselves. 

Trying to Prove Others Wrong? Try This Approach Instead.

Life is a challenge; that much is clear, and at times it may feel like the people we surround ourselves with will be making it that much harder. After all, not everyone that we come in proximity with is going to visualize things the same way that we do. Not everyone we meet is going to understand who we are and what we bring to the table. 

Having the mentality of “proving others wrong” might zap some quick motivation into us initially, but what happens when we ultimately get what we want? Does the journey end? Do we still have something left to prove? Is there even anyone else left still standing by our side, or did we chase them all away? 

When this day is over, we’ll have to face ourselves. If we let the opposition get in our heads, we’ll only be impeding our own progress. When it comes to our goals, we must set out with nothing to prove to anybody. Instead, prove yourself wrong by showing yourself that you can do it. 

All Of Us Remain Works In Progress.

Trying to prove others wrong might get us the results we are looking for, but it won’t fix the deeper issue. This can mean that even after we get what we want, we’ll still feel like something isn’t quite right. We’ll still feel this emptiness inside like something is missing. We’ll still feel like we have something to prove. 

Words cannot physically stop us from reaching our version of success. It’s not words that hold us back. It’s ourselves. 

We hold ourselves back. 

It isn’t the words that others speak that hurt us the most. It’s not the things that others say about us or to us that keep us from moving forward. It’s that these exact words are the ones that reaffirm the doubts we already have for ourselves, that we aren’t good enough.

But that’s not true. 

We are good enough! You are good enough!

“Is something holding you back?

Is something keeping you from achieving the life that you want?

Do you doubt yourself?”

Stop Doubting Yourself. Keep Your Ego In Check. You Have Nothing To Prove. 

Living our lives, crushing our goals, and reaching milestones can be invigorating if we do them for the right reasons.

Feeding our egos will never guide us down a path that leads to happiness. On the contrary, it can lead to helplessness, as we find ourselves all alone, pushing everyone else away. 

The path to happiness is built on positivity, purpose, and perseverance. 

I know that I am not perfect, and I also know that you aren’t either. Nobody is; because real perfection doesn’t exist. The people that doubt us or hurt us, or maybe even mock us have just as much work to do as we do. The difference is that we have the opportunity now to decide how hard we are willing to work. Will we let others fuel our doubts, or will we push past them? It’s time to decide. 

We have the chance right now to prove to ourselves that we can do anything by working hard to achieve whatever we imagine. That’s what separates the dreamers and the doers. Doers do it because it fuels them and gives them purpose, while dreamers keep dreaming. 

Force your negative self-talk into submission. Remember that everyone fights their own battles too. Don’t try to prove others wrong; prove to them that they can too. Show them that they can push past their own fears as well. This isn’t about being better than anyone else. It’s about being better than yourself.

Remember To Protect The Relationships That Matter The Most. 

Often, there are people that surround us who do genuinely want to help; and want us to succeed. These people can come in the shape of a wife or spouse, child, parent, or even a friend or co-worker. But, often, in our ego-driven, doubt-crushing fit of rage, we wind up hurting those who only wish for our happiness. Of course, this can happen because when we grow so accustomed to proving others wrong, in the process, we prove it to the wrong audience. 

Sometimes, the people who don’t want us to succeed aren’t even the most significant ones in our lives. But yet, we take our pain out on the ones who are there for us. We have to recognize that our minds can also be both of these; an ally and a foe. And when we are unable to identify a partner from a competitor, everyone becomes our enemy. The relationships that we establish with ourselves are by far at the top of the list.

Ask yourself, “Who am I at the end of the day?”

At the end of the day, our minds are the thing that can keep us trapped. We need to decide to either ignore, adhere to, or push past our own self-limiting doubts. Take the advice that people give to you, use it if you will, learn from it, or even discard it when you need to. But don’t place your journey on the shoulders of another. We all have our own individual work to do. Let others in from time to time so that they can help you make those changes. You aren’t giving in or losing power; you are gaining it. Use that positive energy to keep proving yourself wrong. 

Your Path Is Unique To You: Go Where You Need To, Not Where Others Take You.

A majority of our decisions will wind up playing a significant role in our lives. Not every decision is life-changing, but it’s still good to know that we’ve made a decision with confidence in ourselves. Proving others wrong doesn’t give you the confidence you need; it hides your full potential. Have confidence in yourself. Have confidence, even when no one else sees or hears about it. Confidence is an individual’s journey. You need to find your confidence, and I think you already know the way to do that.  

Make the right decisions for you. Peer pressure, doubters, naysayers; none of that matters at the conclusion of the day. Because when the sun goes down, and you are lying in bed, peering up at the ceiling, wondering what decision you need to make next to change your life, remember these next few lines. None of the doubters are sitting next to you. It is you versus you. You can stress about it, get anxious because of it, make the wrong decision, or lay back down, close your eyes, smile, and say, ” I can do this.” 

Prove it to yourself. 

2 Comments

  1. Henri Suckow Nogueira

    Great …we need accept our own challenges everyday and prove ourselves that we are here only to become a better person. Thank you John for this excellent post.

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